Divorce is an Obscene Four Letter Word
13 If a man takes a wife and, after sleeping with her, dislikes her 14 and slanders her and gives her a bad name, saying, “I married this woman, but when I approached her, I did not find proof of her virginity,” 15 then the young woman’s father and mother shall bring to the town elders at the gate proof that she was a virgin. 16 Her father will say to the elders, “I gave my daughter in marriage to this man, but he dislikes her. 17 Now he has slandered her and said, ‘I did not find your daughter to be a virgin.’ But here is the proof of my daughter’s virginity.” Then her parents shall display the cloth before the elders of the town, 18 and the elders shall take the man and punish him. 19 They shall fine him a hundred shekels of silver and give them to the young woman’s father, because this man has given an Israelite virgin a bad name. She shall continue to be his wife; he must not divorce her as long as he lives
1 If a man marries a woman who becomes displeasing to him because he finds something indecent about her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce, gives it to her and sends her from his house, 2 and if after she leaves his house she becomes the wife of another man, 3 and her second husband dislikes her and writes her a certificate of divorce, gives it to her and sends her from his house, or if he dies, 4 then her first husband, who divorced her, is not allowed to marry her again after she has been defiled. That would be detestable in the eyes of the LORD. Do not bring sin upon the land the LORD your God is giving you as an inheritance.
17 “I have no husband,” she replied.
Jesus said to her, “You are right when you say you have no husband. 18 The fact is, you have had five husbands, and the man you now have is not your husband. What you have just said is quite true.”
39 Many of the Samaritans from that town believed in him because of the woman’s testimony, “He told me everything I ever did.” 40 So when the Samaritans came to him, they urged him to stay with them, and he stayed two days. 41 And because of his words many more became believers.John 4:17-18 & 39-41
10:1 Jesus Teaches
10:2-12 Divorce was a common practice with two schools of thought in time of Jesus.
- Anything morally shameful – usually adultery, but that would result in stoning
- Any moral fault or anything that became an annoyance (burned food)
- If she found no favor in her husband’s eye (Deuteronomy 24:1) allowed divorce anytime the husband found another woman.
Jesus let them know the two schools did not matter, only divine law. Jesus made it clear Moses concession on divorce did not institute or authorize divorce, but permitted it under strict guidelines with the intention to restrain the outcome of their hard hearts. Jesus took them back to Genesis 2:24 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh, in verse 6.
Matthew 19:9-10 9 I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.” 10 The disciples said to him, “If this is the situation between a husband and wife, it is better not to marry.”
Various translations of porneia – fornication, unchasity, adultery, whoredom, sex sins (plural), terrible sexual sin, sexual unfaithfulness, sexual immorality, and on and on.
John 8:1-11 Woman caught in adultery brought before Jesus. At the end He says, Go now and sin no more. Literally Go now and be no longer a sinner. He does not condemn her, but He does condemn her sin.
John 3:17 For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him.
Adultery is not the result of remarriage after divorce, but of frivolous divorce. Marriage is divine institution, the first divine institution. Still divorce is not an unpardonable sin but it is detestable in God’s eyes. Still, Christ accepts us at salvation as we are by making us new creations. People must be reached for Christ not where they should be, but where they are.Christians who have divorced and remarried cannot be eliminated from serving Christ if their hearts are right with God. Remember the Samaritan woman who had five husbands and was living in sin. Yet because of her testimony many believed.
Ephesians 5:21-25 Men …